Saturday, June 13, 2009
What Dreams Are Made Of
A recent post discussed conflicting feelings in a dream about two loves and a choice to be made. It elicted a fair number of responses to the question, "What would you do?" Many people tried to interpret the meaning of the dream. Others answered as though the choice were real.
This dream, unlike many of my others, has a denouement. I was able to balance my years with my husband vs the years without the other person. I resolved the ups and downs and happiness and disappointments of our relationship vs the unknown. I chose to stay.
I am happy the dream had resolution because I tend to analyze my dreams ; take them too seriously or too literally. They are very real to me while I'm in the midst of them. So real, in fact, I vividly recall a dream I had about my husband when I was with this other person twenty seven years ago. It was the same type of conflict, making a choice, only this time my husband was the object of longing. ( Note: at the time of that dream, we were divorced and I was with this other man.)
So, what does this say about me? The grass is always greener? I have interesting dreams? I need to learn to live in the moment? Probably all of the above.
I spent many years living in the past. It is not an easy thing to admit but it is true. Living in the past is wasted time, as one reader pointed out. Trying to predict the future is also futile because we do not know what will happen and we waste time worrying about it. I have spent many years learning to live in the present and I think I'm almost there. Every few days I have a hiccough and I think forward or backwards. For the most part, I am here today.