tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7929216211968531577.post1806346483037749109..comments2023-05-16T06:32:48.715-04:00Comments on Women of a Certain Age: Inner ChildCalifornia Girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12582691517303132274noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7929216211968531577.post-53315102435545854702010-01-14T17:26:45.310-05:002010-01-14T17:26:45.310-05:00Hi
Feel like there isn't anyone who would not ...Hi<br />Feel like there isn't anyone who would not benifit in having a therapist to help us see the beliefs and patterns we take on in our younger years that might have helped then but cripple us as adults. Thumbs up to you for looking for another way to deal with your anger. It is always an honour to have someone share their struggles and solutions in such an honest and open way. Thank you.maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01695675141316914425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7929216211968531577.post-32961817383901025002010-01-13T13:17:09.309-05:002010-01-13T13:17:09.309-05:00It's amazing how our adult attitudes and quirk...It's amazing how our adult attitudes and quirks could all be traced to out childhood experiences. But as easy as it seems to appear when you are reading it, I know for a fact that revisiting the past and looking hard at all those painful experiences is like having the wounds bleed again. It takes a lot of time and conscious effort. But with your will power to move on, it ain't impossible.distresseddamselhttp://www.buytramadol.canoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7929216211968531577.post-80586805783723739502010-01-13T06:42:05.974-05:002010-01-13T06:42:05.974-05:00It sounds like your therapist is wise and taking y...It sounds like your therapist is wise and taking you down the right path.The Peach Tarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01587235197620014751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7929216211968531577.post-4983132448171154032010-01-12T10:32:23.682-05:002010-01-12T10:32:23.682-05:00Completely unrelated. This is about the "what...Completely unrelated. This is about the "what type are you" quiz<br /><br />Type your name (first and last) on the black space on the left where you are prompted to.<br /><br />type in the password "Character" without the quotes.<br /><br />Then he will ask you 4 questions.<br /><br />The questions will appear in fairly large print on the left. Click on the one which most suits. I hope that works.<br /><br />HazelThe Clever Puphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07198739825136188378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7929216211968531577.post-37185174178626641162010-01-12T10:06:45.977-05:002010-01-12T10:06:45.977-05:00Without therapy (12 years) I'd be a maving ran...Without therapy (12 years) I'd be a maving raniac!Ima Wizerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03433038947071428711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7929216211968531577.post-18681799688771406562010-01-11T11:48:35.126-05:002010-01-11T11:48:35.126-05:00You are lucky to have such a good therapist. I thi...You are lucky to have such a good therapist. I think we all could use some therapy, but just never get around to it. Interesting post!Margueritehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15846051579802335412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7929216211968531577.post-60588584961227847182010-01-10T17:04:43.052-05:002010-01-10T17:04:43.052-05:00I admire the hard work you are putting in, life is...I admire the hard work you are putting in, life is not always easy...Greg (Accessible Hunter)https://www.blogger.com/profile/14284270514731142757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7929216211968531577.post-69043096335208346382010-01-10T11:32:14.089-05:002010-01-10T11:32:14.089-05:00Ruth, my therapist always asks me to "set asi...Ruth, my therapist always asks me to "set aside...judgments", e.g. I am frustrated w/ this particular feeling, and "make them wait in another room." He then instructs me to "sit with the child and take care of her; be there for her; let her know...there for her and listening." Very much like what you describe and it's very helpful. Requires strong visualization skills and practice but I eventually get there. I did it once for my husband whose 6 yr old was suffering from his parents' divorce and his abandonment to neighbors for a time. He was furious with the child, wanted him to "get over it". Our therapist turned to me and said what do you feel towards this child and I replied, "protective, empathetic, love". I've seen one side of my husband quite differently ever since that session.California Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12582691517303132274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7929216211968531577.post-22399467770283233202010-01-10T10:49:53.067-05:002010-01-10T10:49:53.067-05:00I like how Eckhart Tolle calls this "the pain...I like how Eckhart Tolle calls this "the pain body." That describes it so well. We all have something in us, a living pain that has roots to long ago, and it really is hard work to face it like this. Bravo.<br /><br />I also like what I read in Michael Brown's <i>The Presence Process</i>. He describes that hurting child in you as lying on a bed, sick. And you - your real self (divine self, I think) - is the mother sitting on the edge of the bed, nursing, listening, asking questions, talking as you would to a child. No judgment or "oh you'll feel better soon." Just, "oh, that feels so bad doesn't it?" and "I'm here, tell me more . . " like that. Visualizing that has helped me more times than I can tell you.<br /><br />Thank you for your openness. It really helps me.Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14204074161539605133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7929216211968531577.post-84969951820247092642010-01-10T06:47:37.462-05:002010-01-10T06:47:37.462-05:00i've learned such a lot in the last 5+ years a...i've learned such a lot in the last 5+ years about how such experiences shape us....<br /><br />but i still believe freedom and change are possible, well usually.<br />well, hopefully...lettucehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13872380339261609060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7929216211968531577.post-83532612045365852662010-01-09T17:58:11.933-05:002010-01-09T17:58:11.933-05:00Use your anxiety as fodder for your art....and bes...Use your anxiety as fodder for your art....and best wishes to you and yours.gmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04879507440579599549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7929216211968531577.post-47819245612349841522010-01-09T12:59:32.048-05:002010-01-09T12:59:32.048-05:00Oh... that inner child. We all have one, or a few...Oh... that inner child. We all have one, or a few. ;) It is amazing, when guided, how we can learn self-care, isn't it? I am new to your blog and I have really enjoyed reading here today.Shatteredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03522971021773946033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7929216211968531577.post-85506860904914071412010-01-08T16:20:29.403-05:002010-01-08T16:20:29.403-05:00We happened to see the one about work relationship...We happened to see the one about work relationships and that poor young woman fighting depression.<br /><br />My family was much like yours (except my dad was worse with my mom) and sadly, because of his past, he's still trying to figure it out, although all his participants are now long gone.<br /><br />It's work, but what isn't these days.....Coffee Messiahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16908162048706236634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7929216211968531577.post-65969517530605200512010-01-08T09:42:09.036-05:002010-01-08T09:42:09.036-05:00"Know thyself".... is powerful stuff!"Know thyself".... is powerful stuff!Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10983782694330464508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7929216211968531577.post-46912410474967706922010-01-08T02:00:09.825-05:002010-01-08T02:00:09.825-05:00It's so hard to comfort that little child insi...It's so hard to comfort that little child inside of us sometimes. Thanks for the lead on the PBS programming. I can never get enough of this stuff.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13178290697351352495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7929216211968531577.post-4097776010425215902010-01-07T17:59:27.020-05:002010-01-07T17:59:27.020-05:00I've never seen a therapist. Despite being ter...I've never seen a therapist. Despite being terribly depressed earlier this year and being sorely tempted. The ones I know are all mad and just want to prescribe prozac. <br /><br />I'm having issues with my son as well. He's a good boy but lazy and unmotivated. We're very much alike and I have to be careful how I approach criticism of him. I know I offload a lot of my baggage onto my children, one copes with it, the other doesn't. It's not easy. Not easy at all.Bainohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156193098088048637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7929216211968531577.post-54106254755772733162010-01-07T14:49:47.784-05:002010-01-07T14:49:47.784-05:00I think it's amazing how much we can learn abo...I think it's amazing how much we can learn about ourselves given the right kind of guidance. After the fact, it seems impossible not to have known about it before. Awareness is the biggest aid to change, I think. <br /><br />And I could relate to your disappointment and irritation with your son - been there a few times. <br /><br />Very interesting post - thanks.Deborahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10892637441668897411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7929216211968531577.post-51429245246115070852010-01-07T14:30:52.068-05:002010-01-07T14:30:52.068-05:00Oooooh... the Inner Child work... some of the hard...Oooooh... the Inner Child work... some of the hardest and most rewarding therapy I have ever done/endured. That stuff will take you to your knees sometimes. My question is: when do we ever get past ALL the baggage?? Dangit. I have to admit, it was worth the effort. <br /><br />Hug little CG for me today! You are awesome to have contacted your friend and apologized for the orange peel incident... and to have been brave enough to tell us about it. I'm cheering you along in this Inner Child journey.Tannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05484104973009411729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7929216211968531577.post-28828486362806523072010-01-07T13:02:01.090-05:002010-01-07T13:02:01.090-05:00Displacement is a tough one. As with so many thing...Displacement is a tough one. As with so many things, easier for me to see it in others than in myself.ArtSparkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04875996639432864367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7929216211968531577.post-640940883718054892010-01-07T12:26:39.665-05:002010-01-07T12:26:39.665-05:00We're bonde!!!d (I used to watch Oprah, sorry)...We're bonde!!!d (I used to watch Oprah, sorry). LOLMinkahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18372105017807728884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7929216211968531577.post-58486470171466099872010-01-07T12:22:51.922-05:002010-01-07T12:22:51.922-05:00Minka: it's "the Catholic part of" ...Minka: it's "the Catholic part of" you. hahahahaha! me too only I'm Protestant. Protestants have some seriously severe sects too.California Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12582691517303132274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7929216211968531577.post-17172103694516641932010-01-07T11:19:09.630-05:002010-01-07T11:19:09.630-05:00I think happiness is overrated anyway. Or better s...I think happiness is overrated anyway. Or better said, the definition of "happy" is quite blurry. What does it really mean? The picture of "happy" in many people's minds is a wrong one. There is not one big happy feeling one can reach and keep, is there? Only small nice things and the awateness of the beauty around you and your good luck. And loving yourself and being pleased with yourself. Loving is ok, but being really pleased with yorself (in a good way, not with total absence of healthy self-criticism) is the hard part, I think. Or is it just the Catholic part of me, feeling guilty of something all the time?Minkahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18372105017807728884noreply@blogger.com